As humans, we have an instinctive tendency to want to avoid pain and discomfort. This inclination can sometimes lead us to live our lives avoiding failure and seeking the perfect circumstances—the perfect mate, the perfect job, the perfect house in the perfect place—in order to ensure our happiness.
But when we need life to go right or be easy in order to be happy, it makes it really easy to give up when things get hard—even when we’re doing the things we really want to do.
The key to creating the life you want (even when things are hard) is developing resilience. Resilience allows us to live our life and pursue our dreams without needing it to be comfortable all the time.
In this episode of the podcast, my son, Caleb, and I share how to become resilient and discuss how discovering our own power to choose our experience and feel our feelings makes us resilient in every circumstance we face.
Everyone will face adversity. It’s part of our earth life experience. What’s important is how we choose to think when things don’t go how we want them to. Resilience gives us the power to overcome difficulty and stay in pursuit of what we want out of life. Building our resilience is what helps us find ways to move forward towards our dreams - even if our brain says we should give up.
Our brains will always try to protect us by telling us to avoid pain. But when we understand that resilience grows by facing our discomfort and choosing our thoughts about it, we can build our capacity to feel bad. When we can get good at feeling bad, if we’re willing to experience any negative emotion to get to the other side, nothing can stand between us and the life we want to live.
In this episode, my son Caleb and I discuss how we’ve become more resilient and how it has impacted the way we show up, regardless of the circumstance. Resilience means you don’t have to wait until things are perfect to be happy, because you have the strength to create your experience even when life gets hard.