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Doing It Anyway

Jan 20, 2020

Chances are, here on the third Monday of the year, you might be tired.

You might have set some goals at the beginning of the year and then got busy, doing lots of new action and work. And now you are tired. And chances are, that even with all your hard work and energy, you aren't seeing any signs of progress yet.

This is the way of it.

Physical progress towards our goals is never as fast as our brains want it to be.

And so we give up, citing a lack of evidence. We start thinking, "We're not getting anywhere. It's not working. I must be doing it wrong. Why do I even try?" or something similar.

I started a new exercise program two weeks ago. It's something I've never done before. It is different than any other workout I've ever tried. And so my brain is desperately looking for evidence that it is working. My brain wants to know my effort isn't futile. My brain guards my effort and energy like it's its job. (Thanks, brain.)

What I have decided is that I'm doing it anyway. I'm committed...

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Using the Gift of Today

Jan 13, 2020

On New Year's Eve, I went to urgent care.

I was sitting next to two older women who were filling out paperwork. One of the women asked the other, "What's your birthdate?" The other woman replied, "11/14/23."

I was stunned for a moment. We were about to ring in 2020, and I was sitting next to a woman who was around the last time we had a decade in the 20's. She was back to the 20's!

And I just sat there in awe of the miracle of the life we each get to live.

Think about it for a minute. All the years, all the days, all the hours and minutes and sunrises and sunsets—given to each one of us.

For free.

To spend how we want.

It's easy to take it for granted. It's easy to get in a hurry and think we don't have enough time. It's easy to think we don't have a choice and just keep making the same choices out of habit instead of deliberate consciousness.

But the truth is, you have been given a gift.

The woman I sat next to has been given over 35,000 days—35,000 chances to love and...

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The Future Is Your Property

Jan 10, 2020

Today I want to tell you something that is super exciting.

The future is just thoughts.

The future is just thoughts!

Meaning that none of it exists right now.  None of it has been created.  It all just exists as a thought in your mind!

Which means, you can put anything you want into your future.

If it's all just T's, then it's all up for grabs!  Absolutely anything you want is available!  There are no circumstances in the future.  Not one.  It all just exists as a collection of thoughts.  

I love the question I heard Brooke Castillo ask a group of coaches recently:  What five things are for sure in your future?

Like you could just pick!

You could just decide today, what five things you for sure want in your future.  And because they only exist as thoughts, you can pick anything you want.

Think about the power of that!  You have a whole blank year ahead of you.  What five things do you for sure want to appear in your future...

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Feeling Our Way Through 2020

Jan 01, 2020

As you look back on 2019, what was the best feeling you felt?

Think of all the days, all the experiences, all the things that happened over the course of 365 days. Which moments felt the best? Which feelings would you like to feel again?

This is a powerful question.

So many times we think about our life in terms of what we have done or what we have accomplished or what we want to do in the future. Right now, in fact, you might be thinking about making some new goals. All of these goals are likely to be things you want to do in the coming year.

But instead of thinking about your new year in terms of what you want to do, I love the idea of thinking about what you want to feel. 2020 is a blank slate. What feelings you do want to be sure to feel during the next 365 days?

And what will you need to think in order to create those feelings?

Remember it's never what we do that creates our feelings. Every feeling is preceded by a thought not an action.

Do you want to feel excited? Do you want...

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Merry Christmas!

Dec 25, 2019

Every year I write a letter to our friends and family about what I have learned throughout the year.  This year it was all about what I learned about fear and self-doubt.  I thought it might be helpful to some of you as well.

Merry Christmas!


Dear Loved Ones,

This fall, Olivia was traveling in China from Nantong to Wuxi, a ten-hour trip through a country she knew nothing about. She couldn’t speak Chinese so she couldn’t even buy her own bus ticket. A stranger helped her get a ticket, but when he handed it to her, she couldn’t read the characters to see if had been issued for the right destination. When she went to board the “bus” to Wuxi, disconcertingly, it turned out to be a non-descript, 12-passenger van. She had no idea if it was the right bus, going to the right place, or even, if it was a bus at all. She couldn’t read the highway signs along the way and her phone couldn’t access the internet to verify her route. Was she going...

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Thoughts About Christmas

Dec 23, 2019

It's no secret that I am a Christian.  This week my family and I will celebrate the birth of our Savior which occurred over 2000 years ago.  

For over four millennia before his birth, Christ's coming was just a thought.  God told his children that he had provided a way back—that there was a way to escape all the pain, and heartache, and mistakes, and grief of earth life.  

He said there was a way to try again.  And again.  There was a way to be together again.  Even after death.

This was only a thought, of course.  Jesus had not come yet.  The Messiah was only a promise of something wonderful to come.  

But this thought sustained the people that believed it and allowed them to endure and overcome the sorrows and sins of their earth life experience and look forward to his arrival.

And then he came.  He lived and he died and he made an infinite sacrifice for all mankind.

And now, again, the miracle...

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Overwhelm is Optional

Dec 16, 2019

I told my husband this morning that our to-do list is winning.  No matter how much we do, it just gets longer. 

Which means I'm losing to an inanimate object—that I created. 

Can you relate?

But then, I remembered something that helped me and maybe it will help you too.

Whenever we feel overwhelmed it is because of our thoughts—our thoughts that we have too much to handle, that we can't possibly do it all, and that consequently, we are all going to die.  (Our brains throw that last part in there every time.)

But the truth is that, even though I always feel overwhelmed during December, to date, no horrible, catastrophic thing has ever happened because I didn't get something done.  I haven't died yet.

I've just had a lot of painful, anxious, irritated Decembers.

Which means, maybe my brain is wrong about all of it.

Maybe whatever I choose to handle will be enough.  Maybe I don't have to do it all—at all.  Maybe I'm not...

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The Quiet Miracle of Progress

Dec 15, 2019

Last night I went to a concert at my son's school.

His band teacher did something unusual.  Instead of having a concert that featured the bands from each grade—5th, then 6th, then 7th, then 8th, then the high school band—she chose to hold the concert with only the 5th grade band and the high school band.

The other grades had their concert on a separate night.

She said she wanted parents to be able to see the remarkable difference between these two bands, one at the very beginning of their band experience and one at the end for many of the students.

Most of the 5th graders have only been playing their instruments for three months.  Many of them have never read music.  When they played, they struggled to play in tune.  There were lots of squeaks from the clarinet section.  They plodded slowly and painfully through "Jingle Bells."  

And then the high school band took the stage.  They sounded like the London Philharmonic in comparison, with...

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Why is What Counts

Dec 13, 2019

This week my mom celebrated her 70th birthday.

And I have been thinking about all the things she has taught me. There are lots, of course.

How to sew curtains and make pie and set a proper table.

When to use cold water, when to add the yeast, and when to call the doctor.

What to do when the baby won't stop crying or what to take camping or what to plant in the spring garden.

Where to find truth, where you can go through the pages of a book, and where to buy high quality dress shirts.

But of everything she taught me, the most important are the why's.

Why you sacrifice. Why you grow. Why you love.

She taught me these by the way she lives every ordinary, insignificant day of her marvelous life.

In the end, the why's are the only things that really matter.

Why do you do the things you do? Do you do it for growth? Do you do it for the stretch and the sacrifice? Do you do it for love?

In a life full of how's and when's and what's and where's, don't forget that what really counts is why.

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Do It for Future You

Dec 04, 2019

Early on Wednesday morning we went to take family pictures.

We had to get up at 5 a.m. to be dressed and ready and in the right place when the sun came up.

No one wanted to do it.

I mean, no one.

But we did it anyway. And they turned out beautifully.

And now we have these pictures forever.

All the way home, I said, "I'm so glad we did this." And future me will always be glad that we got up and made ourselves a little bit uncomfortable in exchange for that picture.

That is always how it works.

We all have things we'd like to do. But they are hard. They require us to be uncomfortable in optional ways. And In the moment of doing, we'd all rather opt out.

Today, choose to do the hard thing that future you will thank you for.

You'll always be glad you did.

xo,

April

P.S. The holidays can be the best and hardest time of the year for many reasons. But no matter how big or small the problem, the solution is always found in your own mind. Sign up for a free coaching session and I'll show you...

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