I used to feel a lot of pressure at New Years. There were so many things wrong with me and my life, so many things that needed to be fixed, that my list of resolutions was painfully long and unmanageable.
I would start off with a morning routine, an exercise routine, an eating protocol, a daily spiritual practice, and relationship goals. By the second week in, I was already exhausted and discouraged.
If this sounds familiar, let me share two thoughts to help.
1. First, there is nothing wrong with you.
2. Second, if there are things you want to change, just pick one.
When we set goals or resolutions from a place of self-loathing or lack, we are taking all of our action from willpower. And it just never lasts long. To really make traction we need to make changes in our thinking. We have to think different thoughts about ourselves to fuel new action.
And that new thinking takes practice and energy and focus.
And we just can't change all the thoughts about us,...
I have a secret gift for my family this Christmas. I have been excited about it for over a month. Whenever I think about it, a quick happy current of delight runs through me and I can't help smiling.
And even though it is a gift for them, I noticed that since I am the only one who knows about it (and therefore, the only one who has thoughts about it), I am the only one who feeling the delight.
This is true of any emotion. If you are angry, you are the only one who feels it. If you are offended, you are the only one who feels it.
And if you are loving someone, you are still the only one who feels it.
Strange, isn't it?
We think we're commanded to love for others. We think we're supposed to love to make things easier for others.
But if we love, it's only because we are thinking loving thoughts, and we are the only one who feels it.
And if we withhold love, we only withhold it from ourselves. We are the only one who...
Maybe your brain doesn't think much of what you've accomplished this year and it might question if you've made any progress at all. But your brain is misinformed.
You have done way more good and you are way more awesome than you realize. Today I'm sharing an exercise that helps you see this truth, feels incredible, and sets you up for massive success in the coming year.
P.S. If there are things that you wish you had done this year but didn't, the only thing that got in the way is your brain. But next year's results can't be any different unless you change your thinking. Coaching is the best way to do that! Come join me!
Our brains always overestimate what we can do in the short term and underestimate what we can do over the long term. But incremental, daily work adds up. Lots of little action inevitably adds up into big results.
Today, I'm sharing a question you can ask yourself to notice the power of consistently taking action over time and help you keep going when your brain wants to quit.
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As part of my spiritual practice, I fast on the first Sunday of every month. For twenty-four hours, I don’t eat or drink and I spend that time noticing my utter dependence on God and how much abundance he provides in my life. I also ask for specific blessings I want in my life.
And every time I do it, my human brain protests. My brain never wants to fast. Its instinct is always to eat.
And what it says to me most often when I am fasting is, “It doesn’t matter. None of this matters. It’s not going to make a difference. We should just eat.”
My brain is so convincing, I almost want to believe it.
But it always matters. It matters in my relationship with God. And it matters in my relationship with me. In fact, learning to choose what I really want over what my brain wants is probably the only thing that matters.
It’s the whole reason I came to earth.
And it’s the same...
Does it ever drive you crazy that you can't do the "simple" things to achieve your goals?
Like if you really want it, why don't you do it?
It turns out, there's a good reason. I explain it all in this video. I hope it helps!
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It's hard to believe that tomorrow is December.
What were your goals at the beginning of the year?
What are your results today?
I know a lot of people think that the entire year was a wash—that none of it turned out like they wanted and their goals were just another casualty of the coronavirus.
But I love knowing that my results are never dependent on anything outside of me. No matter what the circumstances are, the way I think is the only thing that creates my results. And so even in a year when almost nothing went as planned, achieving my goals is something I can count on.
Let's be honest, circumstances probably aren't going to be magically better on January 1, 2021, but that doesn't mean you can't set goals and get any result you want in your life next year—because the only thing in your way, is the same thing that's always in your way:
Don't spend another year wishing things were different. Your brain doesn't care about your...
Today I want to sell you on you.
I know there are things you want to do in your life. I know you have wanted to do them for a long time.
The only reason you haven't done them is because your brain thinks not doing them is easier.
I know there are things you want to change. I know you have tried a million different ways to change them.
The only reason you haven't been able to change them is because your brain thinks staying the same is safer.
I know there are things you don't like about yourself. I know you can't imagine any other way.
But the only reason you don't like you is because your brain thinks noticing the negative is the best way to keep you alive.
Do you see a pattern here?
There is only one thing between you and all the things you want to do and change and like about yourself: your brain. Left unmanaged it opts for the easiest, safest, most negative option and it keeps giving you the same results...
Does it ever feel ungrateful to wish your life was different? Or do you ever feel guilty for wanting more when you already have so much?
I think we can be 100% content and happy with our life and still want more—and I think that is exactly what God wants for us too. (I explain why in this video. I hope it helps!)
P.S. If you want more out of your life, there's a good reason—you were made for it! Come join me my group coaching program and I will help you create anything you want in your life. You are entitled to get it!!