An incredible way to think about life and its possibilities is to consider how you love yourself in every "time zone"—past, present, and future.
We often don't like the discomfort we feel in the present when it's time to work towards our goals or do hard things in order to change and evolve. But this is the key to creating the future we want.
It turns out that the better choices we make in the present, the more appreciation we can have for our past self and the more gifts we give our future self. This is how we love ourselves in all the time zones, and it is a powerful way to create an awesome life!
In this episode we'll talk about why we don't take action in the present, how buffering against present discomfort only makes things harder for us in the future, how "shortening the future" can help us take action now, and how the willingness to experience any feeling builds our present confidence and makes any future possible for us....
Sometimes when we start doing thought work, we can inadvertently get a little frustrated with our human brains.
They look for problems.
They notice what's wrong with us.
They hate change. They worry unnecessarily. They remind us to be scared.
And sometimes it seems like this whole human experience would be easier without them. "Dang it, brain," I find myself saying.
But last week my good friend's husband had brain surgery. And suddenly, it put it all in perspective for me.
Our human brain is the exact thing that is making this human experience possible at all.
They keep us alive.
They allow us to form relationships, create beauty, share ideas, experience mortality, all while we learn and grow.
No computer in the world is as powerful.
No technology in the world can compete with its ability to take in information, and instantaneously process the relevant facts.
No lab in the world can recreate its complicated chemical and hormonal processes needed for...
In this episode of the podcast, I'm talking about why everyone with a human brain needs a life coach.
Our brains are programmed to notice potential dangers and all the things that are wrong with us, but because we're inside our own heads, these thoughts feel like the truth. This makes it hard to distinguish the fallacies in our own thinking and decipher the lies that our own brain is selling us in an effort to keep us "safe." This is where a great coach can make all the difference.
Every one of us can benefit from the perspective of a coach—someone who can see how we are hurting ourselves with our thoughts and offer an us alternative way to think.
Join me for this incredible conversation with Master Coach, Jody Moore, to get her perspective on why coaching can be so valuable for each one of us.
It's not too much to say that Jody's coaching completely changed my life and I'm hoping this interview will change yours as well. Everything in my life started...
What do you think of you?
There might not be a more important question. The answer affects every area of your life.
You should know that feeling unworthy or inadequate is part of being human. It is the result of living in a human body that is powered a human brain, which is naturally programmed to notice what’s wrong with you.
Just like in a computer that runs on software, the brain's software, running all the time in the background of our lives, is that there’s definitely something wrong with us. This programming makes us question our overall worth.
So knowing this, how do we love ourselves?
You have to choose to. You have to give yourself permission to. In other words, we have to discipline our thoughts and decide purposefully how we want to think about ourselves. Here are some things to consider:
We are in prepping and packing mode at our house. In four days one of my daughters is leaving for China for five months and my other daughter is leaving for her first semester of college.
There are lots of lists and Amazon carts and half-filled suitcases in our life right now. And there are also a lot of unknowns.
Both of my girls are going to do something they have never done before. They have no experience. They have no evidence from their past that they will be successful at what they are about to do.
And yet, they are happily going anyway.
Research has shown that this is what we do until we are about 25—we learn as we go. We try crawling and then walking and then riding a bike. We try school and soccer and the trumpet. We go to college and study abroad and we keep trying new things.
Until there comes a day when we don't anymore.
After about age 25 we start looking to our past to find evidence...
Do you have things you want to accomplish in your life, but despite all your good intentions, day after day, year after year, find yourself unchanged and making no real progress towards your goals?
In this episode of the podcast I'll show you that this is not because you are undisciplined or weak. It is because, as humans, we think the way to accomplish things is to focus on what we are DOING, to try to take more action in order to get different results in our life.
But this will only take us so far.
To really get the traction we need to accomplish anything, we have to focus on what we are THINKING instead. In The Model, developed by Brooke Castillo, we see that:
THOUGHTS > create feelings
FEELINGS > drive action
ACTION > produces RESULTS
This is the way to accomplish anything.
You can take any action in your life if you remember that the feeling needs to come first. And every feeling is created by a thought. Whatever action you are taking...
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